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This classroom-ready lesson—developed by Greater Good in Education at UC Berkeley in partnership with Harvard's Making Caring Common—guides educators through a structured process to build inclusive norms rooted in fairness, student voice, and civic responsibility.
Lesson Overview
1Step 1: Introduction (10-12 Min)
Start by asking students what they think a “norm” is and why shared expectations might matter in a group setting like a classroom. Explain that norms are agreements about how we treat one another—and they help build trust, safety, and a sense of belonging. Share a couple of sample norms to illustrate. Next, have students quietly journal about unspoken rules in their own lives—at home, in teams, or among friends. Invite a few to share examples. Then ask students to reflect in writing: How should we treat each other? Who has power here? How are decisions made?
2Step 2: Small Group Brainstorm (15–20 min)
Have students work in small groups to suggest ground rules for respectful discussions. They should write each idea on a sticky note or digital board. Offer examples like “challenge ideas, not people” or “mistakes help us grow.” After 10 minutes, display the notes and let students do a silent gallery walk, then group similar ideas together into categories.
3Step 3: Gallery Walk and Clustering (15-20 min)
Step 3: Gallery Walk & Clustering – Instructions for Teachers
Post All Ideas:
Have each small group post their sticky notes (or digital responses) on a designated wall, whiteboard, or large chart paper. Be sure they are spread out and easy to read.
Silent Gallery Walk (5 minutes):
Ask students to walk silently around the room to read all the ideas. Encourage them to look for recurring themes, phrasing, or values that show up in multiple responses.
Clustering (5–7 minutes):
Once everyone has read the notes, guide the class in grouping similar or overlapping ideas together. Students can move sticky notes to form categories, or use colored markers or symbols to group ideas digitally.
Discuss Groupings:
Invite a few students to share observations:
Which ideas came up the most?
Were there any surprising or unique suggestions?
What values or goals seem to repeat?
Optional Tip:
If using digital tools (e.g., Jamboard, Padlet, Google Slides), you can assign groups to cluster ideas in breakout rooms or assign one student as the "digital sorter."
4Step 4: Collaborative Grouping (20 Min)
Bring the class together and have students read one group of similar ideas at a time. Collaboratively name each group using clear, positive language (e.g., turn “don’t talk too much” into “share talk time”). Repeat until most sticky notes are covered. Discuss any leftover ideas and decide where they fit. If needed, revise or add norms—but be transparent and respectful when making adjustments for clarity, fairness, or inclusion.
5Step 5 Reflection and Closing (8-10 min)
Share the Recommended Classroom Norms and Moral Principles with the class and compare them with the norms students created. Invite students to identify any overlaps, gaps, or adjustments needed. Emphasize that these norms reflect fairness, justice, and human dignity. Once finalized, have a couple of students write the agreed-upon norms on chart paper titled “Classroom Norms” and display it prominently. Before wrapping up, ask students if anything feels missing or needs to be revised to ensure everyone feels respected, safe, and heard in class.
Suggested Agreement Themes:
Here are some topics for you to consider introducing to your classroom.
- Take responsibility for your impact on others.
- Avoid sweeping generalizations.
- Treat diverse opinions as learning opportunities.
- Acknowledge that identities are complex and varied.
- Be mindful of how your words might affect others.
- Don’t place the burden of explanation on one individual or group.
Need Agreements Right Now?
Consider using these Conversation Agreements from Living Room Conversations if you don't have time for a whole class period to set standards.
Activity Formats:
1Think-Pair-Share (15–20 minutes)
Think (3–5 min): Students silently reflect and write answers to 2–3 questions.
Pair (5–7 min): Students share answers with a partner and discuss similarities/differences.
Share (5 min): Volunteers share insights; record themes on board or slide
2Small Group Discussion (10 Minutes)
Groups discuss common challenges and strengths.
One student records key takeaways.
Classroom Share-Out (5 min): Each group shares one insight with the class.
3Whole Class Debrief (10 Minutes)
Present the following questions to your class and have a short full class discussion around these topics. "What Agreements felt easiest or hardest, and why?"
"How can we support each other in living out these norms?"
"What themes came up across your group conversations?"
Pro Tip: Revisit one question or Agreement weekly to keep dialogue habits fresh.